Relate to this one a lot and I am looking forward to your essay on IRL friendships. I was telling my spouse for the 1000th time that I wish I had my friends and he was like: “you do have a lot of friends. You are looking for people who want to go deeper. They are harder to find.” One of the benefits I have gotten out of being a part of online communities is that people did seem willing to go deeper there. But I want the whole package— IRL and the deep stuff. Hard to do at this life stage I think
I can’t say I found a solution to that feeling of wanting deeper friendship! But I may have stumbled into a reframe to help me stop beating myself up about it.
so much truth in your essay. whatever was a wonderful tool is no longer serving you. i am working on doing the same with a group i am in. it helped me so much but i have sort of graduated. there is sadness in leaving but i know i am ready.
Relate to this one a lot and I am looking forward to your essay on IRL friendships. I was telling my spouse for the 1000th time that I wish I had my friends and he was like: “you do have a lot of friends. You are looking for people who want to go deeper. They are harder to find.” One of the benefits I have gotten out of being a part of online communities is that people did seem willing to go deeper there. But I want the whole package— IRL and the deep stuff. Hard to do at this life stage I think
I can’t say I found a solution to that feeling of wanting deeper friendship! But I may have stumbled into a reframe to help me stop beating myself up about it.
so much truth in your essay. whatever was a wonderful tool is no longer serving you. i am working on doing the same with a group i am in. it helped me so much but i have sort of graduated. there is sadness in leaving but i know i am ready.